Reflections of… A Virtuous Wife!

My wife Bella has a birthday on Monday, March 16th.

The Ides of March—for you Shakespearean enthusiasts.

But I think he actually says “Beware the ides of March!”

Nothing to beware about my wife—she is the nicest person I know…

And the nicest most people I know know.

In celebration of her birthday, we went on another “OneTankTrip” drives.

This time—destination Palatka, Florida—somewhere close to the Ocala National Forest and Gainesville.

And also, a little town called Welaka—next to Crescent City.

Oh the back roads of Florida—the scenery, the serenity—good for the soul!

As we drove, we reminisced about her life…

I asked questions that we never want to ask, but…at our age—we probably finally need to.

How does she want to be buried?

Where does she want to be buried?

What does she want in the funeral service?

What does she want done with her sentimental valuables?

At one point, she said “I feel like I’m about to die—why are we talking about this?”

We laughed—and yet, after living through a year of loss of our dear friend Sandy and helping Derrick…

We knew—you just can’t take life for granted…no matter how young you think you still are…

And apparently 50something is NOT too young for Death to call your name.

As we drove, I asked her about places she still wanted to go…

Italy was first on her list—I suggested some place a little more possible in our lives…

Since I haven’t flown on a plane since 9/11, chances are—we’re not getting to Italy.

Then she mentioned Alaska—I just looked and said “Anything on the Eastern board line?”

She thought “Washington, DC—I’ve always wanted to go there!”

Note to self—plan a trip to DC this year for my wife to see our Nation’s Capitol!

Then it just made me a little sad—she’s never been to DC before.

Here is a woman who is loved by everyone who knows her…

Everyone—people who don’t like me STILL like my wife!

She is just someone that everybody likes.

I’m not—I’m a strong cup of coffee—my wife is a cool glass of sweet southern tea on a hot day!

She is the person who steps in while others are dealing with tragedy—

And she goes to the kitchen and starts cooking for the family.

And she prepares a week full of meals, including the paper products…

And she sets out dinner and says “dinner’s on the table—come eat a little something!”

And you have to—even though it was the furthest thing from your mind—the “Mom” in her…

Soothes you and comforts you and persuades you to eat a little something.

I have seen her do it time and time again—she has this gift of “helps” talked about in Corinthians.

She just loves to help.

She is a good example to both young women and older women of what to do when you don’t know what to do!

The Scripture describes my wife in Proverbs 31 when it talks about a virtuous woman:


10 Who can find a virtuous  wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.


And that’s exactly how I feel—

The heart of her husband safely trusts her—she does him good all the days of her life!

And she does that “good” for all of our family—our 6 kids and 8 grandkids.

Bella was able to help out with the birth of our latest granddaughter Keira.

She took time off work right before the birth, and she spent a whole week at their home, helping…

Whether it was cooking a meal or bathing a child or helping new parents adjust to it all…

My virtuous wife fulfilled a lifelong dream—she was able to be there for her daughter and granddaughter.

And that was what my lovely wife lives for—helping however she can!

And I am thankful that she still loves this “strong cup of coffee” kind of guy—

For a woman who has never had a single cup of coffee in her entire life…

I’m lucky she is stuck on my brew!

I am definitely the blessed one—honored that she loves me like she does!